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It is time to get it right. That is what Dad said. Dad was married twice. My biological Mom was his first wife for almost 18 years. My Mom#2 was married to him for forty-eight years. As my brother could attest to – Dad said, “I have been married practically all my life (rest in peace now).”
Our families learned how to love each other. It took wisdom and time to build as a family unit. We learned that we were not responsible for how we came into this world, but we are responsible as to how we treat each other. My fraternal grandmother gave us that lesson.
Grandmother would lean in on any of our situations or conversations and give her input; that was her golden legacy to us, she would say she had arrived at the age to do so. I still can hear that voice, ” We have all made mistakes; and living in the, past, won’t help. It is time to straighten up and fly right. Time to get it right!”
Dad, in his wit, would jokingly reply, “That’s why I married a teacher this time. I didn’t learn my lesson the first time; and teachers believe in giving you a second chance.” Of course, we would laugh at his witty comments; but what we understood was the value of pausing and getting things right. After all, if you keep doing the same thing and expecting different results, that makes you a foolish person.
I remember the day that I finally learned how to make a bed that passed Mom’s inspection. Wow, it took practice, practice, practice. I remember how I secretly shed tears because it was so hard; and it did not please her. My mistakes were disappointing her, I thought. Even today, my husband makes a far better bed than I do. He was army-trained. But the one day that she did not pull the covers off and make me start over, was a day of rejoicing for me. It was the time that I got it right (by her standards)!
Through Whose Eyes
It is easy for us to believe in our own ‘rightness.’ How often people will use their standards as the ones to follow and push on others. Right or wrong, it is the way they see it. Some will even find Scriptures to support their viewpoints.
To get it right, I cannot look through my eyes; yes, I have to pause. I try to listen more than I speak now. Eyes of discernment comes with experiences. Psalms 119:17-18(ERV), “Be good to me, your servant, so that I may live to obey your word. 18 Open my eyes so that I can see all the wonderful things in your teachings.” I keep verse 18 posted that on my refrigeration.
“Father, what are Your eyes today? I want to learn from Your lessons – Your standards! It is time to get it right. ”
I am glad about the eyes of a Father, who is Right! He is righteousness and His eyes are on me. So, today, Father, I have Your eyes. I will see through Your eyes as in Philippians 4:8 (AMP):
Finally, believers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, whatever is lovely and brings peace, whatever is admirable and of good repute; if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think continually on these things [center your mind on them, and implant them in your heart.
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